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Be Satisfied With Your Life…Accept It the Way It Is or Change it

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There are a lot of people who are very open about their problems and don’t mind telling them to random people. On the other hand, there are people who feel the same way, but keep everything inside. Neither is good. And the most important thing is that all of those people are not satisfied with their lives or some points of it and think that they can’t do anything about it. Or simply don’t know what to do.

To be completely honest with you, I never understood why a lot of people like to complain so much. Yes, like to complain! Did you know that an average person complains 15-30 times a day? Wow! I call them complainers:-). And when you ask them how they’re doing, the answer is never: ‘Great! And you?’. It is always one of the complaining versions: Oh, don’t ask, my boss is terrible, my husband is lazy, my kids are driving me crazy and so on.

I always want to ask them ‘Why are you doing it to yourself? Not only that you have a problem (which they complain about), but you put yourself more down by talking about it all the time to everyone and not concentrating on handling it.’ But then I realized, people who complain so much to other people actually think that it makes them look strong. You know “Here I am, dealing with all of these problems, and I am still standing.” They are not aware that the dealing with the problem part is the one that makes them strong, not the ‘telling it to other people’ part.

And just to be clear, I don’t think that a person who complains to a friend once in a while is a complainer. Actually, I think it’s a good thing to get it out of your system from time to time.

If you don’t know what to do in a certain situation, find one or two people you trust are going to help you to deal with it. Don’t tell your problems to everyone. You don’t want people feeling sorry for you all the time.

So, if you are one of the complainers, stop doing it. And I’ll tell you why:

And I can go on and on about the reasons why not to complain, but I want to focus on how good it is on the other side and why/how we should turn our negativity to positivity. And all in order to be more satisfied with our lives.

COMPLAINERS vs. POSITIVE THINKERS

On the other hand, positive thinkers are not complaining, not because they are hiding something from people, it is because they are handling their problems. They are doing it by changing it or accepting it, changing their point of view to the situation, the thing or something else.

For example, I talked to a colleague of mine one morning while drinking coffee and she told me: “Can you believe my luck? I almost had a car accident this morning. This guy was driving right at me and at the last moment he turned left. He was like 1 meter from me. Why do these things always happen to me?” I told her: “ Oh my God, can you believe your luck? You avoided a huge accident.” She looked at me, smiled(because I talk to her a lot about positive thinking) and said: “You again with your points of view…but you’re right. I was lucky.” The rest of the day she started this story like this: “ Today is my lucky day…” True story.
See, I felt good after this and she felt even better. A positive thinker wins!:-)

CHANGE YOUR LIFE…OR ACCEPT IT THE WAY IT IS

Be satisfied with your life. Accept it the way it is - OnePointofView.net

People are often dissatisfied and doing nothing about it. Not because they are lazy or just don’t feel like it. It is because they are so focused on the problem that they don’t see a possible solution. I like to say that every story starts with the point of view. So you should always think about how would your problem look to someone else.

For example, if you don’t like your job, a person who doesn’t have a job is considering you a lucky one just for having a job. So, hold on to that thought before you find another job where you will be happier and more satisfied. But that another job is not going to find you, you have to find it by yourself. Further on, if you don’t have a job and looking for one, there are people who would be pretty happy to have your qualifications and used them wisely. Are you sure you did everything in your power to find a job of your dreams?

If there is something about your husband/boyfriend that annoys you, don’t let the first thing to be ‘Oh my God, I will not tolerate this my whole life.’. Try accepting it. I mean, he must have other virtues that you like. Or think of it like this ‘If I break up with him, what does the other guy has to be like for me to be happy and satisfied?’ Does person like that even exist? Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t. At the end of the day, you have to decide. Will you accept it or will you change it?

I am aware that every problem is different, but there is always a way to change negative to positive. Always. Whether you get out of that situation or you start to look at it differently. And whatever the decision it will be, it has to be good for you, it has to make you satisfied in the long-term. And don’t regret later. I never regret my choices. Would I make some things different now? Absolutely! But when I made these decisions, they were always the best ones I could make in a given moment. I didn’t know then what I know now. So never regret. There is nothing you can do now.

To sum everything up in just one sentence…Take control over your life, make changes if needed, take actions or simply change your point of view.

Even Maya Angelou said:
“ What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.”

 

28 Comments

  1. I have to admit I have probably been guilty of complaining about things I could change. I think maybe that was about gaining other peoples perspective on how big a deal it was?

    1. Thank you for your comment, Tasha! I would say that is one of the reasons! Because it is normal to want confirmation from other people that we are strong because we went through something ‘difficult’, but unfortunatelly it is not realistic:-( As I wrote, what makes us strong is handling the things that bother us, not telling it to other people.😊 I think complaining a lot is not good, because it becomes the only thing we think about.

  2. You hit a nail on the head! I can’t deal with people who complain all the time. If you hate your job so much then do something about it and stop complaining!! Aaagh 😂😂

  3. I do think positive thinking is the best course of action most of the time. Complaining or getting things out IS good though, and sometimes you need feedback or just to have someone to listen to you. But people that complain all the time kind of DO drive me nuts! It’s not a good look.

    -Lauren

    1. Lauren, I also think it is good to get it out of your system from time to time, as I wrote in the post. I do that, too! But if it’s too much, it simply isn’t good for anyone!😊

  4. That’s great post like usual ♥
    I agree with you, When you think positively you becoe happier, more productive and thus your life becomes way better, while when you keep complaining, you only see the dark side of things and that affects you mentally, and you become demotivated.

    1. Thank you, Mei!💕 Positive or negative thinking causes chain reaction. Your life either becomes so much better, or you simply become unsatisfied or even depressed. So, let’s all go positive!!😄💃

  5. I hear you, of course we all have the right to complain but if it is all the time you are right it really does affect your state of mind. It is always important to deal with what is affecting you as you are right having the strength to overcome your demons does make you strong!

  6. Im definitely guilty of complaining of things that I can change although I definitely don’t do so all the time. I definitely need to start becoming a more positive person.

  7. Ah yes. The complainer’s syndrome. When I was in college I had a circle of “friends” who always complained and whined about every single thing ever! When I made some new friends I immediately noticed the changes you mention and that is what your post reminds me of. Thank you!

  8. Being positive in your life, I agree which is much needed in our lives. Complaining about what we have, and expecting what we don’t have: I believe this is human nature, there is nothing bad about it. We are never satisfied with what we have.

    1. Sonika, thank you for your comment. It’s one thing to want more out of life and whole another to complain about what you already have.Wanting to achieve something more is a great thing, it keeps you focused and makes you do something valuable, but in order to achieve something more first you have to be satisfied with what you already got. Be grateful and not complaining about your achievements so far.

  9. Dealing with complainers on a regular basis can be draining (whoops, I’m complaining… just kidding!) But I try to turn people around when they start complaining around me, like’ oh that must be hard, but at least you have this going for you!’ and they’re like ‘yah, that’s true!’
    There are two ways to look at things in life, in an optimistic way or in a pessimistic way, the glass half full is the way to a happy life!
    great post!

    1. Eloise, that is the best approach to complainers and pessimistic people in general. Actually, my whole blog is based on ‘glass half full’ way of thinking.💕

  10. I really love this post. I feel the same way, and it’s not always easy to say. I never want to hurt people’s feelings, and I understand wanting to have a pity party every now and then, but at some point you have to put your big girl britches on and move forward! I’ve cut ties with several friends because it’s just exhausting listening to people complain about the same dang issues year after year.

    1. Thank you, Victoria! Yes, constant complaining can’t bring anything good. The topic of any conversation is about something bad and it can just be too much, to the point where you can’t take it anymore!

  11. Wonderful post. You’re right, people who complain all the time are negative energy. I don’t like to be around such kind of people. I believe in positive thinking.

    1. Thank you, Sivjini! That is the main problem when it comes to complaining, negativity is all over the place:-) It is never all bad, it is just a choice which side are you going to look at! Good or bad…

  12. Most of the problems in the world occur because we are reacting to our situations in the wrong way. We should accept life and try to make it better rather than worse.

  13. Excellent post and I fully agree! I often blog about this and the importance of our words, which are containers of power – for good or bad! Our words can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, so it’s VERY important to think before we speak. What do we want to attract into our lives? Words can bring either blessings or curses, so constant complaining and the unwillingness to do what’s necessary to make positive, constructive changes will only bring MORE of the same negativity and doom you to continue to live a defeated life.

    1. Thank you so much, Dr. K. Lee Banks! I think the first step to start making our lives better is to change our point of views and focus on positive things that are happening to us. Most people take them for granted and don’t even think about them. While, on the other hand, they notice every single negative thing and talk about it all the time. That can’t lead to anything good.

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