Take Control Of Your Life With These 4 Steps

Take Control Over Your

How often does it happen that you just remembered something that happened a few years ago and it makes you think about where did all that time go? You had big plans. Some of them came true, and some didn`t. After thinking about this, some people get ‘mad’ and decide to finally take control of their lives and others find an excuse to why is it like that. This post is for the ones who are ready to own their lives, to take responsibility for it and to be proud of what they accomplished.

To really take control of your life, you need to be aware and truly believe that you have all the power over it. I know you have it. And not just you, but every single healthy person in the world.

Sometimes it will require getting out of your comfort zone, making some decisions that are hard or telling someone something that you are not comfortable saying. But you always have to remember that you are doing it to get your life on the road.

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Once you decide it’s time to make your life the way you want it to be, you cannot just start from today and tell yourself that from now on you’re gonna take the lead. What you need to do is go back, organize your thoughts and start ‘cleaning up’. To help you with it, I made a list of 4 steps that will lead you to full control over your life.


First thing first, you need to sit down, gather your thoughts and be honest with yourself. But really honest. Even if it’s something you don’t want to think about, let alone talk about. This step is crucial if you want to take control of your life.

Create a list of your wishes. Maybe you always imagined yourself as a successful businesswoman and you still think you should be doing something more than what you’re doing now. Maybe you want to get married and/or have kids. Or you wanted both of those things. You want to travel the world, buy your own place, learn another language or write a book. Whatever it is that you want in your life, this is the step to say it or even write it on a paper.

What might help in this step is to imagine your ideal life in 5 or 10 years from now. How does it look like? What do you do? Who are the people around you?

I did this method and it was my turning point. I imagined myself heading this same road for the next 10 years. While I am perfectly happy with my life at this stage, things will change in 10 years from now, and then what? I will probably forget how much energy 3 small kids required and I will only think about why didn’t I think of that stage of my life before.


Ok, now that you have it all written down (or in your head), it’s much more clear. I am assuming your list is filled with some big, life-changing things such as have kids and with some ‘small’ things such as learn to cook. In this step, you need to decide what is really important to you.

There are life-changing decisions and there are life fulfilling decisions. To work on the second ones, you need to have the first ones in order. If you decide to learn to cook first, something will always be incomplete. But if you start to deal with ‘the big things’ first, you will be able to do some of the other things along the way.

Also, we all want to do so many things in our lives, but we cannot do it at the same time. If your list of wishes consists of travel around the world for the next 2 years and do your best to get promoted at your job, you’re probably not going to make it (unless your job is to travel the world😊). So make a schedule. Postpone some of your wishes and be ok with it. You will do it, just not now. Because you’re doing something that is more important to you in a long-term.

If you really decided to take control of your life, you need to be honest with yourself. Tell yourself what is it that you really, really want and need to be happy and make it your priority.


If you followed the first 2 steps, you know exactly what is it that you want that will make you happy. If you want to start your own business, then you need to do some research first. You want to get married or have kids? It’s time to talk about it with your boyfriend/husband. If you want to travel, explore your options.

In the example above, where I mentioned my turning point and why I started blogging, I’ve made a to-do list not just to guide me, but if I ever wanted to quit it reminded me that I am not finished.

Whatever it is that you want, you need to make a road that will lead you there. Nothing is impossible. You need a change in your life and changes happen when you get out of your comfort zone.


The best thing I can tell you here is to quote Jim Carrey:

“You can’t just visualize your success and go eat a sandwich.” 

It simply doesn’t work like that. The whole point of taking control over your life is that YOU need to do it. If you don’t do it, nothing will change.

And remember, a road to success is always under construction and this is where your to-do list comes in handy…to keep you focused.

Be strong, be focused and take control over your life.😉

For more inspiration read my post Be Satisfied With Your Life…Accept it the Way it is or Change it

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  1. I love this and I am right there ready to do it. I’ve been so ill for 3.5 years now and Ive decided that 2018 is the year I take control of my health. I can’t wait.

    1. I am so sorry that you’ve been ill, but I am also happy that you decided that 2018 is your year! 🎉 I wish you all the health in the world❤️

  2. I love this and I want to give this a try this post was motivate me for being an organized too, I tried to make a to-do list before but I’m not consistent and most of the time I’m being so lazy

  3. I’m a big to-do list writer and it really works for me. I can organize and make what need to be done first. These are great tips! Thanks!

  4. Great post! I personally create to do and wish lists all the time and never put them into action. I think organizing my time it’s gonna be my NY resolution 🙂

  5. These are the golden words, prioritizing makes life and its relation much easier and yes more over we need to know what we wish our lives to be. We really need to define the things we want/ change in our lives and what you have shared is the best approach. Think down the life in the coming years, how you would like your life to be, what all will you need, which relations will matter. Loved this post.

  6. I’ve found that small shifts in the direction of where I’d like to go seem to work the best. For example, if I’d like to be healthier, I’ll make my goal to eat a better breakfast for a week or make it to the gym five days instead of one. I also love the idea of visualization. I’ll often create a Pinterest board to inspire me when I want to make a change. x

  7. Yes! I agree with all four of your tips to taking control of your life! Prioritizing and organizing is very important to taking action and striving in life!

  8. Great pointers to take charge of your life. A to-do list is one of my best disciplnes. Big or small, the check marks on tasks accomplished is a confidence booster!

  9. Taking control over our life isn’t as difficult as people think. My favorite tip is the first one because I believe that it takes consideration of the end first to know how bad we want it. If we don’t do this step and merely say we want to take control, nothing will happen. Unfortunately, it’s fear of change that stops people dead in their tracks. Here again is why that first step is crucial. I always suggest even going so far into the future by visualizing the eulogy. Imagine what people will say about you. Imagine how you live your life and what your life was all about. This will be a tremendous help in gaining clarity as well as giving a person a big enough why to progress in their goal to gain control over their life.

  10. Really needed to see this. I am going through a fresh break-up so these tips help me look ahead and see what I need to do to really power through it and make it to the new year.

    1. I’m glad you find it useful. It’s ok to take some time to ‘grieve’😊…and then new year is the best time to start over.

  11. what i like most is – we should be clear what we want to achieve and lets be honest about that. i too like to make to do list for upcoming year.

  12. Lovely tips. I love to have a planner, it helps me to stay on track with my time, wishes, task, ideas etc. I’ve been in the situation when I didn’t organize my tasks, projects and I lost myself. The main key in my every day life is to have some sort of the planner or app in my mobile to not lose myself 🙂

  13. Yes!!! This list is so key. This is such an important outline for anyone looking to make changes or improvements! I think step 1 – defining what you want can be the hardest part. For me anyway. Once I figure out what I want, I can take these other steps to get it. Ahhh!

  14. When it comes to laying the foundation for taking control of your life, this post hits the nail right on the head. Making a plan and having the courage to implement it is what leads to developing dreams and realizing them!

    1. Thank you, Denay!💛 And you’re right, it is a foundation for taking control. The rest is up to us to make it happen.

  15. This is really great, I love the define what you want part. I think it’s really important because it sets a path for you to know what to do next. Thank you for the tips.

  16. great post! i love how uplifting it is! it is really helpful for me to write down everything I want to accomplish on paper. that way I can stay focused and be more productive!

  17. Having resolution gives you a good direction to start another year. Making a list is the most important, to know what you seek and want to accomplish. Those are some great tips and easily doable.

  18. These are some great ideas for taking control of your life, I really need to try and do a bit more of this next year as there is so much I want to do and achieve and I know I could if I set my mind to it.

    1. I agree, no one is incharge of our lives but only ourselves. So let’s do our best to get what we want, whatever we worked for is what we will gain.

  19. This is a very great post and it is completely motivational is what i should say . Taking control of our life is very significant and you written very beautifully . I should appreciate it

  20. We should all every now and then stop and think about these questions. Personally I really like making lists to visualise how I can take things on step by step in order to reach a goal.

  21. Organizing your list can really help you better understand what’s important and what needs to be set aside. Thanks for these tips — they’re perfect for the upcoming year.

  22. Getting out of your comfort zone is a big challenge for me. One has to contend withe possibility of failure and losing face. not to mention starting over. I can talk about it but the actual “doing of it ” is where I pause.

  23. Hi Irena,
    I love how you have summarise this. Since I started my personal development journey about 2 years ago I have spent a lot of time working through this. I always have 3 main goals keeping me on track towards my dream life and I constantly re-adjust the balance so that it takes me towards the life I really want and not some alternative reality which would be a by-product of having spent too long focusing on one area of my life at the detriment of the other things that are important for me. Keeping in mind the end goal is so important because getting side-tracked is so easily done. Thank you for the reminder!

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